Your Journey to unconditional love
Humanity is constantly in pursuit of Love, All of us have an intense desire to be loved and nurtured. The need to be loved could be considered one of our most basic and fundamental needs.
What is the definition of “LOVE”?
In the dictionary, love is the feeling of liking another and/or being romantically and sexually attracted to him.
So we spend our life looking for love through the perfect romantic partnership, the genuine friendship or the most harmonious community, and experiencing different emotions: love, lust, regret, guilt, shame, disappointment, rejection, abandonment… etc. until we end up either leaving the relationship because it doesn’t match the platonic story we had in mind, or we choose miserably to stay and endure it, convincing ourselves that life is not supposed to be easy and that nobody is perfect, and all the other excuses we always find to justify to our inner voice that we don’t have another choice.
In fact, there is nobody to blame here, this is part of our growth and of our path of self-discovery, in many relationships, we attract the person (s) which mirrors our wounds, who would embody all the wrong behaviors (in our perception) to show us what we need to be aware of in ourselves, in another word, you attract what you vibrate, so if you have a history of unhealed rejection, you will attract people who cannot commit, or who would ghost you from time to time, this will cause you more fear of rejection, and will push you to realize your own challenges. It’s like a radio receiver, you only receive the channel if you have the right frequency .
What happens when we get into a Relationship?
So we usually walk into a relationship with our own baggage, our beliefs, experiences, stories, and most important we walk with EXPECTATIONS… etc and so does the other person too, then we move to get to the “getting to know each other” or the “Honey Moon” phase, where both partners are making big efforts to impress each other. Then, reality hits, and we face all the hidden aspects of our partner’s personality which we could not see before (blind love), and that’s because we were hypnotised by the attention, care, and love we were receiving and we voluntarily chose to dismiss it.
This is where we face our maturity test, so we have two choices, either we fall into the victimhood mentality, and we start blaming the self and other, or we take ownership and responsibility of the situation, and ask simple questions: What is this teaching me? What is there for me? How can I transform this?
This simple exercise will shift your focus from “this has been done to me”, to “this has been done for me”, so I can cultivate awareness and become conscious of my wounds.
The Spiritual Love
In Yogic tradition, we consider relationships -such as marriage — as the highest Yoga, why is that?: for many reasons, one of them is: In yoga practices, you are required to hold postures for a few minutes, even if it’s painful and breathe through it until a feeling of ease is experienced, and this is the scenario we are faced with in times of distress, we do not walk out or stay in denial, but we take responsibility and we look at the issue no matter how painful it is, and we stay in the present, the Now, because we know that by embracing and acknowledging the pain we will grow, this leads us to a deep knowing that the other person is ME, there is no separation, we are ONE, and we are here to poke, provoke and uplift each other using different life scenarios.
The spiritual love -in my humble opinion- is what we should all be aiming for, it is a conscious love with a higher purpose aiming to bring individuals into their field of total awareness, and uplift them to a higher state of consciousness. When you love someone, you show an act of selflessness , you are vulnerable and open to receive them fully in your heart with total acceptance and non-judgment, hence both of you have a high potential to awaken to your highest potential through this relationship.
To conclude, our search of love is a result of a deep feeling of separation from the divine, but throughout our journey, we learn to see the divine in every being, by letting go of judgments, anger & resentment, by forgiving and accepting everyone including the self with love, mercy, and compassion. this is the higher form of love, the “Unconditional Love” that brings us to Union with ourselves, and with the Divine in Everyone.
Lots of love 💖