Re-thinking Rejection

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A Curse or Blessing!!

When was the last time you experienced rejection? Was it a parent who was never present enough for you? was it a guy or relationship you thought was worth investing in, and you were proved wrong? was it a boss who overlooked you for a promotion? or someone who thought you were never good enough, no matter what you did?

Rejection may seem like a curse, an enemy, it is disheartening, it makes you feel you are not good enough, and pushes you to question your self-worth and value, but in fact, if you take sometime to think about it consciously, away from the EGO games, because if you think about it, its the Ego who gets rejected and no one else. So once you calm your emotions, you will realised that Rejection is your best friend, you can use is as a catalyst for success and a proof of your high value. instead of internalising it and making it about you, change your perception and look start looking at it as a development tool, a massive catalyst for your success, instead of a humiliating force.

Rejection as a Projection

Before getting discouraged or start doubting yourself, think that rejection can be a projection of the other person’s own insecurities, and has nothing to do with you. In life we encounter different kind of people, some of them are using projection as a defense mechanism, and defense mechanisms are used to cope with feelings and emotions that we have trouble expressing or coming to terms with,

We attract people into our lives who mirror BOTH extremities within us, so that we can have the opportunity be aware of our own dichotomy. The law of attraction responds to both extremes. We are a perfect match to them, even though they seem to be the opposite of us, because that denied self is still part of us and is still therefore, subject to the law of attraction. But these people tend to be our opposing mirror. They reflect the attribute we suppressed and we reflect the aspect that they suppressed. current concept of projection suggests that someone who is projecting, is projecting their own denied self onto someone who doesn’t have those traits at all. But projection is a two way street. Often what we project onto someone IS actually a trait that they possess as well and we only recognize it because it causes a flare up of the wound of that rejected aspect within ourselves. Also, to have someone project upon us, we have to be a vibrational match to that experience, meaning that the experience of being projected upon is also reflecting something that is being denied within ourselves. So instead of falling into negative thinking, own the situation and transform it into a success a story:

I will share with you a tool I am using when I am experiencing a strong emotion or an uncomfortable situation in my life.

first calm your mind and go inward, then ask yourself the 3 below Questions :

  1. What is this?
  2. why I am experiencing it?
  3. How Can I change it?

  1. What is this ?

This question will help you identify the emotion triggered in you when you experienced rejection, what are you feeling, where is it located in your body, and what physical sensations comes with it.

2. Why I am Experiencing this?

When you ask why, you are now exploring your subconscious mind, you are basically looking for your “STORY” here, everyone of us has a repertoire of stories cultivated based on previous experiences, and we keep on feeding that story, and if we are not able to face it, we dive into the illusion of being a victim of our circumstances.

3. How Can I change it?

Now is the time to take charge of your life, to change the narrative of your story, to understand that the world is not there to get you, and that you are not a victim, but you are an active performer in this play, called LIFE.

So use this opportunity to explore new part of yourself, to call back fragmented parts of your soul that you keep rejecting, embrace them and know that you are WHOLE.

Rejection as a Protection

Sometimes, God or the Universe removes people, or situations from your life because they are not just for you, either you are supposed to be somewhere else, with someone else, or doing something completely different, which is in line with your life path and your destiny. Rather than believing that life is against you, open your heart and trust in what is unfolding for you, Surrender, don’t resist it. And I promise, you will go through a life changing experience and you will be grateful for the journey that leads you to where you are and who you are, you will feel blessed for the rejection which initially was a Protection for your heart and soul.

Be The Light!

PS I love You

Your Journey to unconditional love

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Humanity is constantly in pursuit of Love, All of us have an intense desire to be loved and nurtured. The need to be loved could be considered one of our most basic and fundamental needs.


What is the definition of “LOVE”?

In the dictionary, love is the feeling of liking another and/or being romantically and sexually attracted to him.

So we spend our life looking for love through the perfect romantic partnership, the genuine friendship or the most harmonious community, and experiencing different emotions: love, lust, regret, guilt, shame, disappointment, rejection, abandonment… etc. until we end up either leaving the relationship because it doesn’t match the platonic story we had in mind, or we choose miserably to stay and endure it, convincing ourselves that life is not supposed to be easy and that nobody is perfect, and all the other excuses we always find to justify to our inner voice that we don’t have another choice.

In fact, there is nobody to blame here, this is part of our growth and of our path of self-discovery, in many relationships, we attract the person (s) which mirrors our wounds, who would embody all the wrong behaviors (in our perception) to show us what we need to be aware of in ourselves, in another word, you attract what you vibrate, so if you have a history of unhealed rejection, you will attract people who cannot commit, or who would ghost you from time to time, this will cause you more fear of rejection, and will push you to realize your own challenges. It’s like a radio receiver, you only receive the channel if you have the right frequency .


What happens when we get into a Relationship?

So we usually walk into a relationship with our own baggage, our beliefs, experiences, stories, and most important we walk with EXPECTATIONS… etc and so does the other person too, then we move to get to the “getting to know each other” or the “Honey Moon” phase, where both partners are making big efforts to impress each other. Then, reality hits, and we face all the hidden aspects of our partner’s personality which we could not see before (blind love), and that’s because we were hypnotised by the attention, care, and love we were receiving and we voluntarily chose to dismiss it.

This is where we face our maturity test, so we have two choices, either we fall into the victimhood mentality, and we start blaming the self and other, or we take ownership and responsibility of the situation, and ask simple questions: What is this teaching me? What is there for me? How can I transform this?

This simple exercise will shift your focus from “this has been done to me”, to “this has been done for me”, so I can cultivate awareness and become conscious of my wounds.


The Spiritual Love

In Yogic tradition, we consider relationships -such as marriage — as the highest Yoga, why is that?: for many reasons, one of them is: In yoga practices, you are required to hold postures for a few minutes, even if it’s painful and breathe through it until a feeling of ease is experienced, and this is the scenario we are faced with in times of distress, we do not walk out or stay in denial, but we take responsibility and we look at the issue no matter how painful it is, and we stay in the present, the Now, because we know that by embracing and acknowledging the pain we will grow, this leads us to a deep knowing that the other person is ME, there is no separation, we are ONE, and we are here to poke, provoke and uplift each other using different life scenarios.

The spiritual love -in my humble opinion- is what we should all be aiming for, it is a conscious love with a higher purpose aiming to bring individuals into their field of total awareness, and uplift them to a higher state of consciousness. When you love someone, you show an act of selflessness , you are vulnerable and open to receive them fully in your heart with total acceptance and non-judgment, hence both of you have a high potential to awaken to your highest potential through this relationship.


To conclude, our search of love is a result of a deep feeling of separation from the divine, but throughout our journey, we learn to see the divine in every being, by letting go of judgments, anger & resentment, by forgiving and accepting everyone including the self with love, mercy, and compassion. this is the higher form of love, the “Unconditional Love” that brings us to Union with ourselves, and with the Divine in Everyone.

Lots of love 💖